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I am growNman 114 Embracing Maturity: Cultivating Integrity and Resilience for Meaningful Connections and Personal Growth
What if your choices today could shape a fulfilling, resilient life tomorrow? Discover insights into mastering maturity with us as we unravel the core principles that elevate every aspect of life. We promise you’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how maturity—rooted in integrity, selflessness, and foresight—can transform personal and interpersonal dynamics. Join our conversation as we shed light on how living unselfishly and committing to long-term growth can cultivate a life that not only withstands challenges but thrives in them.
Throughout this episode, we stress the significance of knowing oneself and prioritizing personal maturity before venturing into relationships. We dissect the crucial roles of self-awareness and integrity in fostering stable, prosperous connections. Witness how neglecting these elements can impact family dynamics and echo through generations. By fostering continuous self-improvement and a proactive outlook, you can navigate life’s hurdles with intention and purpose. Prepare to be inspired to embark on a journey of mindful living and self-discovery that empowers you to build a life of meaning and resilience.
what up yo? Welcome back to I'm growing man, shaman jivey in the building. Good morning everybody. I want to welcome y'all back to uh, to an episode that I want to dedicate to what I consider maturity. Of course you know we could, you know it's his relative, but I think at the end of the day, as people we would like to always say we were mature in the situation. You know I remember as a child. You know you learn, you will.
Speaker 1:You hear the idea that girls mature faster than boys and they catch up when they're adults or whatnot. And I guess maturity in my mind is making a decision that doesn't compromise all people involved or anybody involved. If it's only in your best interest, it's probably the immature decision. If you're only thinking about yourself and as an adult I would like to believe it took me a long time to actually mature this point can compromise anything that I want to see develop for the remainder of my life. I have a different motive now and it's just getting better. So if it doesn't line up with that, then maybe we're not on the same accord. But I wanted to discuss how one can mature. I don't want to say faster, but I guess it will always keep you safe.
Speaker 1:I kind of narrowed things down. I figured there's three things. The first one is integrity. At the end of the day, if nobody's looking, are you going to make the right decision? And I remember thinking about integrity. So I guess it depends on your situation. If you're poor and you don't have money to feed your family, I got to do this to feed my family. Excuse me, you got to do these things to feed your family, and everybody's situation is different. But what I've learned is that, although everybody's situation is different, you can do something. That's better than compromising yourself.
Speaker 1:A lot of times, we only know what we know and therefore that creates a consequence. But if you don't know other ways that you can do things, you'll most likely pick a life you never intended on walking and unfortunately, some of us don't have the guidance or the parents that can protect us from those things. It's such an early age, but it doesn't mean you can't beat it. You just have to believe that you're doing the right thing. The integrity piece plays a significant role. Like whatever you do behind closed doors, you know it'll eventually come out in the open, and the only thing people want from other people is honesty. And if you can't be honest with the people close to you, it's very difficult to move through life because people will put you in this box. You won't even know it, but people will limit what they can do with you if they can't trust you. So just remember when nobody's looking, somebody's looking, and if you do the right thing, it can't ever come back and haunt you because you did the right thing. But if you don't do the right thing, it can't ever come back and haunt you because you did the right thing. But if you don't do the right thing, it can always come back. There are enough messages that say what goes around comes around and karma. But people feel like, since I'm compromised now, I could still make a bad decision. That's not what you want. Hey, if you wrong, you need to right that wrong and just keep that in mind when you're moving through life, because it will come to meet you at some point and you won't forget it.
Speaker 1:Sometimes, most of the time, people already know what's there. It's not one of those things like I forgot all about that. No, they know. So in order to be mature, you have to have some integrity about yourself. Number two you have to live unselfishly. And when I say unselfishly, it's not like you know people's like you know you got to put yourself first yeah, you do. But living unselfishly means like giving your time or giving some type of effort, you know, because it's going to take more than just giving a donation or something. Living unselfishly is like putting people before you because you got it. If you were a millionaire and you found 60 bucks, you know, would you look around to see if anybody owned it or you know what, if it was inside a wallet, you know? And if you were poor and you found this wallet and 60 dollars and you haven't had food, you know, looking at things differently will allow you to see how you can approach different things in life. But to live unselfishly is giving something that might be your last, you know, like because tomorrow's not a promise and a lot of times we act like we can't give that helping hand because we just don't have time, but we're not doing anything.
Speaker 1:If we're more intentional with our time, I think those things are returned. You know, just like I was telling you about the karma. It's all tied together, like if you put good into the world, you don't have to get any fruit from it. You're becoming somebody who's going to be able to withstand the pressure of whatever you got coming, because you're practicing it on a deadly basis. You just have to believe that helping people is it's your service here while here. It's your service while here on earth is is to help. You know.
Speaker 1:I think muhammad ali said that one you know service on earth is your ticket to heaven, or something like that. So I think we see the messages. We just sometimes look past them because nobody's looking. And the man in the mirror and you know you being able to face your own demons. That's the decisions you're making.
Speaker 1:You know, last but not least, in when you're mature, you put an effort into something that you know is going to eventually blossom later. Nobody sees your effort, but you become addicted to creating something from all the information you've learned. And I think when you see books with scriptures that say you should do this, they give you all of the answers, but it's so many distractions that prevent people from getting to the truth that lies within you are the key to your own success. These other things are just helping you and trying to guide you along the way, but if you have integrity, you live unselfishly and you put in the effort that's necessary to get what you believe. That's a maturity that your environment doesn't even know about.
Speaker 1:And I think since I've started this podcast, like my life has changed so much. You know, and it's just it just comes from a routine that I've noticed that people that make a lot of money they believe in their craft, that respect the craft, they work on it every day. And one thing I recognize if you work on yourself every day, it'll always improve. But if you intentionally work on it every day, you'll create a result you haven't seen. And that's what mature is Like.
Speaker 1:Mature is making decisions, not saying you're not going to make some poor decisions, but you'll be able to make sound decisions where you won't compromise you or the people you love. Like I know people now that still compromise themselves and their environment and just talking to my wife about it, like how do you create a consequence that says, hey, get back on track? You are putting yourself in a situation that's going to be a distraction for your family and, no matter the age, there is some miscommunication that's compromising, I hate to say it, but the male species, like if you don't know you follow the life you think you would mind living the life you think you would mind living and a lot of times, the life that you're watching. It may not be the best view, and the only reason I'm saying this is because I know the type of person I was before and to get to this point, I wanted to make sure I shared with people who may feel like they want to have other opportunities to find success. And I think, at the end of the day, we all want to be mature.
Speaker 1:And if I were to look back on being an adult integrity, living unselfishly and your effort that you put into everything well, everybody who's mature has those things in my head, in my head this is what I recognize these three things are. They're very important and if you can't follow them, it's very difficult to achieve anything. It's not like you're very good at one and then you need these three things. You should be able to believe people should know like, yeah, this person would do this. It's not like you care about what people think about you, but it's about your decision making. When things get tough, are you going to be able to hold on and make the best decision? Where it was like man, they stayed calm under pressure, and those things only happen when you are practicing what you believe in, and those three things are so important.
Speaker 1:You know I'm not going to say I was absolutely living these things up like 100%, but as I've gotten older I realized how important these things are. So most of the time I am trying to make sure that these things are always being placed first, because you can't get in trouble by doing that and it keeps you safe and you give off a different energy and I like it. So it's only fitting for me to be able to share the things. That makes me feel the way that I do. Because I'll tell you, I told my wife I was like you don't know anybody happier than me, and I really believe that she doesn't know anybody happier than me. I don't think anybody knows anybody that's happier than me anyway. Like I enjoy going to work, I enjoy coming home, I enjoy going to sleep. Like I try to live in the moment, like I know people say are he being extra? Like, I don't think I'm being extra.
Speaker 1:I've been living like this actively for the last over five years now and I'd see the progression of my commitment, believing that what I'm doing is necessary. Like because I think the more. I fell in love with doing these things, like working on my diet, finding the threshold where this is what you look like, this is what you feel like. When you get that, it's a level of okay, I understand. Everything has a process and if you know the rules, you're creating your own story. It's like you're the artist of this canvas and it's like, oh, you finally get get it. You see, all of this is like rocky and then all of a sudden, it's just like it just, and it's just art pieces like, wow, you just got to keep working on it.
Speaker 1:If you don't put that effort in and you can't expect to get what other people's gotten or what do you think they have, because it's like they're cheating you from your experience or not, they're not cheating you. They're making you believe that it's easier than it is. But if you focus on you, you take care of your own business, your own life. I'm telling you life is filled with so many other things that haven't even been put into words, or at least I haven't seen them. I don't hear people talk about them, so I'm wondering if my TV's been on too long.
Speaker 1:So I guess those are my go-tos for the idea of maturity. If you can say you can do those things, then you've entered a different stage of maturity and you'll find people to try to argue with you about it. But it's not about arguing. It's about them understanding that if certain things happen, would this compromise this over here and that's all that happened. Like you being the the head of your household, you can't compromise any and everything for your own selfish reasons, because you weren't taught how to do these things. You need to seek different ways so that you can mature, because I'm telling you, I've seen way too many, too many men lose playing a game that they didn't get the rules, and if you don't get the rules, like I said, it creates a butterfly effect for your kids. That's gonna be very difficult for you to explain.
Speaker 1:So, are you young people thinking about finding relationships? Find who you are first the core person. Don't. You can always grow with somebody, but make sure you find who you are first the core person. Don't, you can always grow with somebody, but make sure you know who you are. You know focus on, you know your integrity, living in selfishly and putting in an effort into something that's going to always work in the background, that's going to eventually flower into something or blossom into something that you can't even imagine.
Speaker 1:Write those three things down and say give yourself like a scale of one to 10, and 10 being what does it look like if all of those are doing this max? Write that down Like. If you don't write it it down, then it's almost like you don't have a plan for yourself, like literally, as we mature, we have to put things in the place for us to achieve everything that people been talking about. I think we're in the best position with mankind has to offer, with the information, but we're distracted by these other things because our parents that have it growing up or their parents that have but what we have now. We can actually enjoy everyday life with the things that we have and we just learn how to Y'all make today better than yesterday. Don't worry about anything. You can't control. G-a-t-a Get after that action or that action will get after you. Be great on purpose.