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Get ready to learn how taking action is crucial in nurturing a growth mindset. We'll explore the practice of identifying and writing down areas for improvement, which, much like taking notes in a classroom, boosts memory and retention. This episode also shines a light on the power of community in fostering personal growth and the significance of stepping up as the role model you once needed. With the mantra "Get after that action," you're encouraged to embrace a positive mindset and make each day an opportunity for growth. Come along for a journey that promises to inspire you to live a life driven by intentional self-betterment.
what up, though, and welcome back to I'm growing man, this, your man, john d, in the building. Um, for those of y'all that don't know, uh, I'm in my third season this room and we changed the screens out because the temperature has dropped and at some point, I can't be in here because it's gonna be too cold and we don't have any, uh, a heating system. That's gonna make this the best soon, but I wanted to jump on here and just talk about how to cultivate a growth mindset. I was recently asked the question how do you do that? And, to be honest, you have to like, you have to intentionally do it. You can't just, you can't just say that you know I'm growing. You have to do something. You have to, like, identify areas that should be improved in your perspective and do the research and find the ways how to improve it.
Speaker 1:I think a lot of times, people say you know I grew a whole lot, but did you grow on purpose or did you grow because mistakes kept happening? Your experiences allowed you to learn? Is it something that could have been prevented? And, through my journey, I can honestly say that the last six since I turned 40, that something went off. I can't exactly explain it, but I had a lot of time to reflect. But when I answered this question, I was pretty much just talking about how I created. I pretty much created a routine that kind of emulated other people. And when I say that, I specifically targeted people that were considered very good in the craft and I started to do research and I learned what they were doing in their day and what I learned was that they do things that regular people just don't do. I broke the day down, of course, into three sets of eight Eight because they say you're supposed to get eight hours of rest, and then another eight is what you're supposed to do during your daytime as far as to earn a living, and then your final eight is what you do when you're not asleep or making a living. And I decided to use those hours to just focus on being a better father, husband, teacher, communicator, and I broke that down even further. But every day I'm dedicated to just working on areas, specifically those areas. But I actually studied several languages and the art of communication, so that me being a father, a husband and a teacher, it's a lot easier when your audience understands the objective and the growth mindset came from watching my results. My results. They were so good that I believe that I could get more of them if I got better at it. I believe that I could get more of them if I got better at it. No-transcript to do what they're good at.
Speaker 1:About five years ago, I dedicated the remainder of my life to just work on communication and I think at some point I will get paid, and my growth mindset came from not only just wanting to get better, but how I could become so marketable that somebody would want to pay me. And I couldn't figure that out at first, but when I started to analyze where I was in life, I became very grateful for having the things that I still had intact and thinking about the life that I live. And to have the things that I still had. I wanted to make sure that I was going to be an example if anybody was watching. To make sure that I was going to be an example if anybody was watching, and through that I learned how to be a better father, because your kids will take your habits, good or bad, and I had got so intentional that I tried to remove all of the bad habits that people have said over the years, because I don't want my kids taking something that's not in their best interest. So I started to replace those habits with things that would make me more of a polished father, and as I became a better father, I asked for a lot of feedback from my wife, because I thought she was a beautiful parent and she helped me understand that it was definitely more ways than the ones that I've learned, and she gave me the feedback that I needed and she saw what I was trying to do and I think that just it helped our relationship grow in ways that I could have never imagined, because I didn't know how tired she was as a mother, let alone a wife, but just a mother, because her husband me not knowing how to truly compliment her.
Speaker 1:So through this journey, the growth mindset just came from. How can I make her enjoy the life that we live in without her feeling like she's overwhelmed with responsibilities that I'm supposed to be helping? And I do want to say this I really did believe that I was complimenting her, but there were so many things that she was doing that I just wasn't aware of because it wasn't exposed to me when I was a child. So this growth mindset was developed on purpose to create something that we haven't seen and what most people don't realize. If you work on anything, it will get better. Now, depending on how effective your routine is, it's going to determine how soon it can become a product that you haven't even seen. But if you do believe that you deserve a better life, you have to believe, you have to change your mindset, and if you look up growth and find out what does that look like and how do you make it happen at a faster rate, you can learn how life can give you things you couldn't even imagine.
Speaker 1:I'm developing emotions that I'm not even capable of describing because nobody or anybody that I know has never talked about it, and, being in this place, I feel like the energy that I have on a daily basis. I'm supposed to share it, because it would be really selfish of me to be able to live this way, enjoy all of the moments throughout the day, and that sharing is just. It wouldn't be, it wouldn't be a nice thing, like I wouldn't want to be known to somebody that kept this secret, and the secret that I don't think people really know how to present is not only in you, but if you can be more more focused on the areas that you need to improve. On a daily basis, you enjoy life in a different way, and I know some of this may not seem like the easiest to receive. But your work, your effort, your mindset. I don't even want to think about the people around you, because you can do this without anybody. You just have to believe that you can put the work in.
Speaker 1:You know and I think a lot of times we believe that because we care about other people that they understand what we're going through and they're supposed to support us. But your environment can cripple your, your, your growth in the way that you want it to develop because you think or you assume that people are supposed to support you the way that you want it to develop because you think or you assume that people are supposed to support you the way you want. And when it's all said and done, it won't be about the people who helped you. It'll be about the effort that you put in for doors to open that you didn't even know were there for you. So in order to get good at anything, you have to do your own research. This is what I learned If you do your own research, you'll believe in the practice more than somebody telling you how to do it.
Speaker 1:The person that I'm becoming, as far as the communicator in me, I want to be able to introduce ideas to people without telling them what to do, but to drop nuggets or gems here where somebody can discover it on themselves, because the best growth in life is discovering something and following through because you believe that it's true. So this information I'm giving you, guys is not something that you should live and die by, but I do believe you should live and die by and believe in it. You're that important to having everything you deserve. My wife and I we're talking about you know it's not your fault who your parents are. It's not your fault where you grew up. But at some point, hopefully sooner than later, you will just complain and blame it on everything that had no idea in putting you, that they were going to put you in this position. Like the universe only works for those that work. Like those who work for the universe, are you putting the effort in to get a result that you believe you deserve it, a result that you believe you deserve? And the hard truth is, the majority of the people around you are lazy, and when I say lazy, I'm not just saying sitting around doing nothing. I'm talking about lazy with the effort that they could do for themselves. Like working hard for yourself is an effort that most people won't even get tired of. But you don't know, because you think at this work you don't want to do it. But once you invest in yourself and you believe in it, whoever's watching you will receive some of that energy also. But if you sit around and just doing what you've always been doing, you're going to continue to get what you've always been getting.
Speaker 1:My life has literally changed so much that creating these videos trying to figure out how I can put just a little bit of happiness in people's lives, is so motivating to me. I wasn't one of those people that were, you know, unhappy about my life or talking about. You know can't believe this happened to me. Now I complain like other people, but at some point it got on my nerves about complaining and then I realized complaining just means that they want somebody here loud enough to give them some ideas so that they can improve. And when I do hear people complaining, I do try to come up with ideas for them to be more successful. And that's not even the best practice in communication. I should do more listening and only give advice when people ask for it, because unsolicited advice creates scenarios and misunderstandings that most people don't even want to deal with.
Speaker 1:So to create a growth mindset, you have to find areas like write them down. If you don't write it down, it's almost like you go into class and you think you can remember everything the teacher teaches you. If you don't write anything down, you can't come back to it. You have so many thoughts in your head, but when you put things on paper, it changes what you want to remember. The more often you do it, the more you retain everybody in the village that's trying to help the community to improve. You are being watched, you are appreciated, and I want to encourage you that you should become that adult that you thought you needed when you were a kid. Y'all make today better than yesterday. Don't worry about anything. You can control G-A-T-A. Get after that action or that action won't get after you. The great over.