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I am growNman 85 Embracing the Tapestry of Belief and Relationship: Navigating Personal Growth Through Environmental Influence and Vulnerability
Have you ever wondered how much your beliefs are influenced by where you were born or how you were raised? Join us as we unravel the impact of external factors such as location and parental guidance on shaping our worldviews. From the religious landscapes of the Middle East, the United States, and China, to the values passed down in different economic backgrounds, we explore the intricate tapestry of influences that mold us. The conversation is a deep dive into understanding these layers and balancing them to foster personal growth and enriched life experiences.
Moving from materialism to minimalism can be a transformative journey. Listen as I recount my personal shift from being obsessed with expensive possessions to embracing a more meaningful and financially responsible lifestyle. Shedding the weight of material dependence through detoxification and healthier choices, I found clarity and self-acceptance. We discuss how environments and beliefs shape our lives, the importance of striving for self-improvement, and finding a harmonious balance between confidence and insecurity. This segment is all about embracing genuine experiences and helping others along the way.
Relationships can profoundly impact our lives, especially marriage. Discover the importance of vulnerability and open-mindedness in nurturing successful relationships. Sharing candid insights, I discuss how my wife has provided me with perspectives unattainable through prayer or solitude alone. Through the power of effort, communication, feedback, and even therapy, we explore how to build a fulfilling partnership that enhances happiness. Distractions and the necessity of discipline are also examined, encouraging listeners to pursue their unique paths with determination and embrace a life full of meaningful experiences.
what up dope and welcome back to I'm growing man shaman jai d in the building. Uh, good morning. Uh, hope everybody's having a wonderful day. Um, I just had an idea that I wanted to kind of get on here and give my analysis of life. I feel like I'm closer to 50 than 40. So I think I have an opinion that may help younger people when they're in asking for questions and they don't have any answers.
Speaker 1:I know a lot of people say look for God, and I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but when you can look for other ways to alleviate some of your problem solving, you don't have to always rely on God. You do a lot of your work on your own and God will protect those who work for themselves. I think the most important part when determining how your life is going to be is where you were born, where location matters. Depending on where you were born, you were going to be exposed to whatever they believe in. In the Middle East, most likely, you're going to be exposed to Islam. You grew up in the United States, most likely you're going to be exposed to Christianity. In China, you'll find Buddhism, confucianism, taoism, taoism. In a lot of the Far East countries you'd find those things and who's to say what's right. And I don't think it would be fair to say that, depending on your location, it's going to determine who's right. I do believe that the intent is only to help. I do believe that. I do believe you find some people that are extremists in anything and they'll take things to the point where it's literal, and then you got other people that won't be so literal, and then you got the people in the middle won't be so literal, and then you got the people in the middle and you're still for the right call. You're still on the same team, but your practices are different. And then when you separate that with another name to kind of separate people on who's on this side and who's on that side, it causes a lot of conflict. So I do believe your location plays a pivotal role in your foundation of what you're going to believe in.
Speaker 1:Second, most important your parents, and their foundation is very significant because my journey has brought me to believe that all parents want the best for their kids and, no matter what that looks like, they want the best for their kids. So if a parent only has so much information, the information they give to their kids could be very limited. Now, this could work in a lot of ways, but I want to just focus on a couple of them. If you have money, the mindset of a person that don't have money versus a person that has money person that has money has to have something innately in them to be more creative than a person without money. A lot of times when you come from money which I can see within just my kids my kids are exposed to a lifestyle that I have nothing. I have no clue what it's like because I grew up. You know.
Speaker 1:You know, I know everybody always talk about they come from poor backgrounds, but it's drastically different from what my kids are living and to me it's like I'm crippling my kids because we worked so hard to get here and now they don't have to work as hard in areas Now, academically they're really good, behaviorally they're really good as people, they're great people, you know. But I can see that they don't have the drive, maybe, to to do what people in my generation was trying to do try to create a better life. I think they already know that they're going to live a better life, but being a parent, talking about parents, being a parent for them. It's very difficult to try to like that hunger or that energy that says I need to get this and that's been a tough hurdle. But depending on your parents, your location will, like I said, it can help you but it can also hurt you. So if you're poor, the information you get from your parents, most kids are going to believe it's it's, it's in stone, until they go out and they find out that the information that they have is wrong. Now, depending on how they communicate, they can either learn more information or they could just be stubborn and say their information is correct.
Speaker 1:Now, imagine Well, I guess everybody has that, everybody's there put in that position. Imagine, well, I guess everybody has that, everybody's been put in that position. So, wherever you are, just think about it. If you're a Christian, you're a Muslim, buddhist, all of these practices, whether they were given to you by your parents or you found them, it's all for a greater cause. But depending on where you grow up, you will have a judgment, some particular judgment of another group because of their extreme groups of people in that group and it kind of the people in the middle.
Speaker 1:They're lost because they don't want to be recognized like this, but they want to do right and I believe that everybody's message, like I said, is good, and throughout time there were other people that were just trying to do better. And I've gotten to the point where I realized the intent of all of these great men that people follow. They're no different than us, it just depends on who wrote their story. Now, I'm saying this because I believe you are that important, your story is that important. You have to remove the distractions to be able to understand who you are. So I've gotten to the point where I've done a little research and, well, I've done enough research to understand the intent of the people that people tend to follow, and I've practiced some. But now I understand that these people were just practicing something that worked for them, and other people found it to be inspirational and I think if you could take a little bit from everybody, you could become a more balanced person.
Speaker 1:I think, depending on what you believe in and how, how much you're willing to be open to believe, it is more information out there. This video is definitely not to challenge any anybody's beliefs. However, I wanted to give you my view on how I believe people can separate from different groups. Like you can believe in Jesus, you can practice the way that they practice, but if you're doing anything that's not Jesus-like according to him, because you say I'm a sin, it's to me. I feel like it's putting yourself in a box. We are, we're going to make mistakes, and as long as your mistakes are not hurting you or the people around you, the environment, putting anybody in a position to to miss an opportunity because you didn't deserve it, you don't need God to know that's wrong. You know what I'm saying and I don't think anybody that practices anything is going to say that's okay, and I believe some people are compromised, where they will make decisions based on how they're living and based on your location. Your parents and your belief system will determine how happy your life will be. I can tell you that I've been a lot of places, I've talked to a lot of people and happiness is like occasional. It's not a way of life, and until you search for more information, you're going to be caught in a small hamster wheel of not knowing that there's more information out there, like you can literally live in the moment, you know.
Speaker 1:I want to give an example. I used to be really materialistic, you know, like spending a lot of money for shoes, clothes, accessories, because I wanted to be seen. And then, when I got on this journey and I started to clean my body out and remove all the toxins, it's like poor food choices. Now I do want to know I was still drinking alcohol and I still do drink. I don't want to say that I just stopped everything. But I developed a different clarity when I cleaned my body of the foods I was putting in and it also reduced my appetite in alcohol. But you know, it made me realize how much money I was spending on things that I didn't need. And financially I just became more responsible. I was buying these things that literally I couldn't afford. It didn't make any sense. But to me I was like I worked hard and I deserved it. But, like I said, when I removed the food out of my body, it removed me from wanting to be seen by people. It made me want to like. It kind of made me just appreciate who I was. I was like are people, do they care about me because of the clothes I'm in, the shoes I'm buying and the accessories I got on? I was like, if I don't wear these, am I still that person? I realized, yeah, of course I am, and when I removed that I saved so much more money.
Speaker 1:And what I noticed in removing the materials like it was a different type of happiness. You know, like when you have money and let's say, you're buying things you can't afford, it gives you this instant gratification and makes you feel good when somebody sees you. But overall, paying that bill is like that's every day. You know how often is it making you forget like man, I got to pay this bill. You don't get enough of that. But if you remove that want of the materials, you don't have that day to day. Like man, I got to pay this bill for something you know so it's. It allowed me to become so much more comfortable with who I was, versus what I was wearing and what I could recognize what other I was wearing and what I could recognize what other people were wearing.
Speaker 1:Now I don't make any difference. What you got on. For the most part I can read. You know what I'm saying. But as long as you feel good, I feel good, you like it, I love it and that's on real top. And that was, I guess, more so like Buddhism. That's what I got out of Buddhism they believe if you don't, you don't have this want for things, then you don't have any grief and I believe that that's a boring life. I can't lie, I couldn't imagine doing that every day and I can understand. You know the baseline. You know the baseline. The baseline of your happiness is non-existent because you don't do anything other than I don't know. Focus on yourself and I believe that's a great thing you should, but I think it's in order to enjoy life.
Speaker 1:You have to have different experiences and I think overall my analysis brought it right back around from your location, parents and what you believe in. It's how can you experience the most while remaining safe and helping others in the process? And a lot of that can get clouded by how difficult your environment is. You know like, or you know it's so crazy your, your confidence is somebody else's insecurity and your insecurity is somebody else's confidence, but you wouldn't know it because people don't wear that information out and we can assume people are more confident in certain areas and not know that that's their insecurity, because we think we know how people feel because of our own experiences. So if you choose to follow someone, understand there's going to be extremists in every group. Just practice to get better.
Speaker 1:People say nobody's perfect, but you can try to be perfect. People say nobody's perfect, but you can try to be perfect. Perfect is like not messing up on purpose. You can make a mistake. It's okay to make mistakes. I do want people to know that the only problem with making mistakes is if you don't learn from them, because repeating a mistake that you could have learned from is wasted time and it can be expensive. So keep that in mind when you guys are finding ways to improve as people.
Speaker 1:I know some people might look at me now like I don't believe it. I used to live a different life and I can't even believe I lived that life. But I was thinking. Everybody has a story like literally your experience. If you can get through your experiences where you can be happy with your effort that you put into life, the happiness is different, like and it reflects through your day to day work, home and health, home and health. They say that relationships are healthy for men, so they can get older, because men died younger than women, and I really believe that honestly.
Speaker 1:I believe that what my wife gives to me is something that you can't get unless it's from another person. It can't be through prayer, it can't be through solitude, it can't be through hanging out, it can't be through partying. It's like creating a relationship with something that's bigger than you, because you have to become vulnerable to a person that a lot of people haven't even been vulnerable enough to themselves, let alone give it to somebody else. And I don't want people to think like I'm saying that the relationship is bigger than God. I believe in God, I love God. However, god wants his children to do the best they can on earth or anywhere, and however it's supposed to look like, and I believe that the relationship is the key to happiness.
Speaker 1:If you learn how to create the relationship you're supposed to have and I think that's the problem through the analysis of life has always been. It's always come from to me in a man's perspective, I believe now my perspective is heavily influenced by my wife, because I kind of listen a lot more than I used to, because I used to always doubt I knew what I was talking about, but she gives me a set of eyes that allows for my words to hopefully resonate within you, if there's anything in my voice that sounds like his wife told him that it probably was, because I was only looking at it from a man's view or other men's view and my wife gives me a different view. I think the destination is to enjoy every day with someone because you can. You can do everything in this world that you want. But if it's not with somebody, it's not as fun. And if you can't build that relationship with the person, I think right there, that's probably the most difficult game in the world Having a successful relationship where both parties genuinely knew that they couldn't be happier outside of what they were in. And I think I know there's no blueprint, but I do know it takes work, some more work, a whole lot of talking, a lot of feedback, a lot of feedback, some therapy and being open-minded that your belief system has some flaws. If you can go on that journey with somebody and you take it seriously, life is that much easier. I put that on everything. That's my word.
Speaker 1:If there's anything I can give anybody, if you're in a relationship with somebody, if you want to be in a relationship with somebody, go into it with the intention of becoming so vulnerable that this person can ruin your life. That means it's going to take a lot of that. You have to spend some time getting to know this person. And when you find your person, you have to know that there's a lot of distractions that prevent people from getting in these relationships or having successful relationships. And the number one key distraction, in my opinion, is sex. It's not necessary, you know, like men need to learn discipline and because I'm not going to lie like it's so much more than that, lie like it's so much more than that and if you base your relationship off of that, you can't get to what I'm talking about, because your distraction is sex like, and most people, a lot of people, already know their distraction. But if you can remove your distraction, just imagine the type of person you could become. Your relationship would flourish.
Speaker 1:Hey, I appreciate y'all checking in, hold up. Yes, definitely, I appreciate y'all rocking with me and I do want you to know like my views, my thoughts come from, like an accommodation of things that I'm watching, reading, learning, and I feel like this information is the only help. It's not to hurt if it's wrong. It's not intentional to be wrong, but a lot of these are my opinions and I feel like it's worked for me and I feel like the thing that I want you to get from my journey is that your journey won't look like mine, but you have to go on it to be able to tell it. Y'all, make today better than yesterday. Don't worry about anything you can't control. G-a-t-a get after that action or that action will get after you. Be great on purpose.