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I am growNman 77: Embracing the Art of Generational Wealth: Mastering Self-Mastery and Evolving Family Communication
Conflicts and conversations within a family can either cement or crumble the foundations of generational growth. Join us as I open up about the evolution of communication with my wife, and how we've turned resolving disagreements into teachable moments for our children and nephew. It's a candid look at breaking cycles of ego, embracing emotional growth, and the mantra that daily improvements are the building blocks of a robust family legacy. Let's explore how the wealth of our experiences and the clarity of our communication can carve a path for generations to come.
what up, though, and welcome back to I'm growing man, this man, john d, in the building. Uh, I wanted to really get on here and talk about what I think generational wealth really means. I know people think about the money aspect of it, but I think the money is a distraction. I feel like our goal is to show our kids how to master something. We can show them the process of what it looks like, so that they can imitate or find a better way to generate the money that they think is their worth, if that makes sense. But I think the way that we look at life we look at jobs to pay us money distract us so that we can't master anything, and I think that's what life is all about is mastering self, and if you get caught up in the bigger this, bigger that, or where you've been and look, I love all of that too, but that stuff will come when it's supposed to. If you work on your craft and I think that that we believe we deserve certain things, so you know we have this idea, we'll get here and we can do this, but if we work on ourselves every single day, at some point you would benefit in a way that you wouldn't even understand, but you have to make it a part of your daily routine. That's the generational wealth. Like, my kids know my schedule, they know how I roll, they understand my intent. Through time I'm going to become pretty good and the reason why I'm saying this is because I believe that's the generational wealth, like when you can show your kids the process of what it takes to do what you want. They know I got a job, I leave home, you know, like, but they also see me investing time like to myself, like, and for the most part it's when they're asleep. Like I get up early in the morning so that there's no interruptions, but they they're going to understand, like, what it has to, what it's going to have to look like if they want whatever they want. Because I I feel, like the way that I've moved through life, I understand that I was, I was distracted by everything that was moving and I wasn't working on myself. But when things started to slow down, when I realized what are my kids looking at and I was just uh, I was just a bot, and then I feel like I'm I'm taking control of things because, like, I enjoy moments like this.
Speaker 1:I'm sharing this with you because I want to show you guys what I think generational wealth could be for you, like. Could you imagine if you had the person with the mindset that is constantly trying to get better? Just imagine if that was your parent, where you would be. You have to like bust to a ceiling that you don't even know how close you are. But the generational wealth comes from the way that you move, because somebody's watching you and the better you move, the more impactful you're going to be when you are able to like really help others. You know, help them like catch their own fish, for a lack of better words. You know I'm like we have to understand that we can be the star of the movie. You just have to work for it.
Speaker 1:Some of the most famous people in the world are missing key components and they get unlimited money. People don't even realize it's half the money, but people are still driven toward that. You know like sometimes we have to just want to be better us and better me. You should be a better you if some of these people are considered, uh, masters in their craft and say you know, like they put so many hours in doing it. You know it's crazy that we should work on the craft of like becoming a better man. They have mastered the craft of making unlimited money being a part of a machine. It's brilliant to do it so quickly. A lot of you are awesome. We owe more. You know what I'm saying. We got to work on being a better man.
Speaker 1:For sure, my son's watching me and I feel like I'm I'm able to give him better answers than the ones that I was given, and and it just comes with experience, patience and and blessings you know, so I'm thankful to be able to give him information where he'll be like. That makes sense, because you know like to change the wealth in your family is going to require everybody accepting their role of improvement. Your body tends to get old faster when you're just doing the same thing and not taking care of your body as you get older, because we can become an arrested and developed in our head. We can feel like we're moving around, like we always moved around and did. One day, something gives up and you're like dang, I'm old, you got to take care of your body and I'm specifically talking about my age group. Because my age group, I'm old, you got to take care of your body and I'm specifically talking about my age group, because my age group I'd be full and they'd be out here holding me and I'm like it ain't even that serious.
Speaker 1:You know, like I feel like you can live the life you want, but you're so much more valuable around us when you're happy, you know, and then putting your body at risk is sounding like you're not as happy as I don't know, like I got a few people that I don't know. I don't have the words to say, but I do want to say this you know you're, you're creating an energy that it's going to be hard to top and it's dealing with father time and that's what I'm afraid of for my fellow man, because so many men my age group, is falling due to health concerns and a lot of us don't have enough information on what like what it looks like, other than professional athletes. They got mad balls. It's tough. I mean people be tricking her about how much money it made. But maybe you put lean body on the line. You say you would want that life until you understood what it took to get there and then they don't really want that life.
Speaker 1:Most people that behoove that they don't really want that life. It just sound good. They don't understand the dedication it really takes to becoming so cold when somebody want to give you that money. Like they don't understand the dedication it really takes to becoming so cold with somebody want to give you their money like people don't be really knowing, because that's that's, that's what the entertainment is all about, that's why they so cold. Yeah, but anyway, it's for us regular people that perhaps, like trying to figure it out, you got to just work on yourself, continue finding ways to improve.
Speaker 1:Like you can't be saying I still make the mistakes. I think it's crazy. Like how old are you? That's calm, calling everybody up like come on, really, how old are you? You still making them same mistakes? Like who's really in control? Like I don't understand. You know like, as mankind, if we're gonna be better, we have to be more accountable for our day-to-day actions, and if we're not, then you I mean you kind of kind of know how your life is gonna play out. You know like and there's so many stories of this, this and this. You know like even even famous people. You know this is everybody got their time right. But it's too much information out here for us to not improve so our kids can have a better way, because some of us are here, fool straight, foolios, like, and it is it is.
Speaker 1:What's so crazy about it is, I know it's not a lot of this stuff that we do, it's just a lack of guidance, and hopefully some of these words will be able to resonate in some of you guys, like like I told my wife for real, like I'm gonna tell him to say this one, because I was like man, let me talk. Like that, I'm like I'm going to mute and call him a husband. Because I was like man, don't be talking like that. I was like I'm about to be out here, cold. I would love to hear a woman that says their man says I want to mute and call him a husband. You know what it looks like.
Speaker 1:It looks like every day I'm trying to find a way to create what it takes to be the coldest husband. Like every single day, like, like, even like now my wife is guarding this bother me because I should be out there, but I gotta shoot because I have to be responsible and share this information. But I, I want to like be out there and help her. I'm on her, though I know those are moments that she like and I'm like I want to like be out there and help her. I'm on her, though I know those are moments that she liked and I'm like I want to be around, you know, around her during those moments, because I know she likes it Right and we already have a great relationship. So then I can ask questions and learn my wife in a different way, where I know that you know she's in a happier mood. Not saying I can't talk about anything, but, depending on the mood or how you feel, you might be more open to ask questions that you never considered before, since me and my wife have been on this journey.
Speaker 1:This is another thing about this generational wealth. My kids are gonna know what it takes to have a balanced relationship like they seen me and my wife arguing. They see, now you know how it's matured over the course of time. Like you know, because we're on the same team, like why are we talking to each other? Like that we don't need to talk to each other like that, like I'm sorry if I said something, that it was, you know we just apologized. And like I mean we're not completely smooth with it, but we don't be like holding no grudges. Like you can't get nowhere if you're holding a grudge. We on the same team and you know it's as crazy as that sound people be trying to say I got it like, you got ego or pride like.
Speaker 1:And that's that's what men, that's what they say, men got ego or pride right. So I need you to like evolve, man, because if you don't, your, your, your kids are watching it. I'm like you can't be having, you can't be having pride of the ego, preventing you from growing. When you got your seeds watching no bueno, no good. You know that's not even cool. We have to want to do more. And he's going to show them how to make the money, but show them how to improve. Every single day it creates a different product.
Speaker 1:I have two kids and a nephew that live with me, but I'm a teacher and I learned Through them. They respect. They respect the rules. If you tell them the rules, sometimes you got some kids that Get out the boundaries, but overall they'll apologize and I can watch Like Kids mature Because they understand this is respectful, this is disrespect. Like I'm teaching them like, maybe, behaviors they had seen before. And to me I feel like I'm giving them something that maybe they won't get into the end of, but me recognizing where I was at that age.
Speaker 1:I think that it just puts you on a straighter path. It allows you to recognize a consequence could take all this away from you know little, little dumb things you know, and Watching students make impulsive decisions is like unfortunate, because I don't even know the right words to say. But I did. I do want you to know generational wealth. My kids know that for the rest of my life I'm going to try to work on a way to put words together so that we can communicate a lot better. There's no reason why we should be arguing and we all all the same say it's crazy. Y'all make today better than yesterday. Don't worry about anything you can't control. G-a-t-a. Get after that action or let that action get after you. Be great on purpose.